I never understood why this individual asked me to be in a relationship with him.
He only talked to me when he felt like talking to me.
I only saw him when he wanted to see me.
When I wanted to talk to him, I would call him, but he wouldn’t answer his phone.
How could he go days without talking to me?
How would he get to know me if he never spent time with me?
He told me a couple times that he needed me, but he never made me feel like he wanted me.
I soon realized that once he got what he needed, he wouldn’t need me anymore – until he needed something else again.
Unfortunately, this sounds like the type of relationship that a lot of Christians have with Christ.
We know that we need Him, but do we really want Him?
There’s a difference.
Paul said, Lord, what do You want me to do? (Acts 9:6, NKJV).
If you’re not asking the Lord what HE wants you to do, it’s because you still want to do what YOU want to do.
Stop trying to take care of yourself and trust God to take care of you. ~ Joyce Meyer
Your Father knows what you need before you ask. ~ Matthew 6:8, KJV
I am your God and will take care of you until you are old and your hair is gray. I made you and will care for you. I will give you help and rescue you. ~ Isaiah 46:4, GNT
You can be sure that God will take care of everything you need. ~ Philippians 4:19, MSG
The Lord is my Shepherd. I shall not want. ~ Psalm 23:1, KJV
Cast all your care upon Him, because He cares about you. ~ 1 Peter 5:7, MEV
God can and will take care of you.
Valentine’s Day is in nine days…
And I know some of you would like to be in a relationship.
And God may send you someone.
And he/she may love you, but no one will ever love you like HIM.
Do you know what it feels like to love a person who doesn’t love you back?
But God wanted you when you didn’t want Him.
He chose you before you chose Him.
And He loved you when no one else loved you.
He didn’t wait until you were easy to love, but He loved you when you were hard to love.
So, if you are single, separated or divorced, please know that you are not waiting to be loved, but you are already loved.
For God so loved the world, that He gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life (John 3:16).
But God clearly shows and proves His own love for us, by the fact that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us (Romans 5:8, AMP)
But God put his love on the line for us by offering his Son in sacrificial death while we were of no use whatever to him (Romans 5:8, MSG)
While we were wasting our lives in sin, God revealed His powerful love to us in a tangible display (Romans 5:8, VOICE).
To one, God may be like the man who left ninety-nine sheep to search for one sheep that had gone astray until he found it (Luke 15:4).
But to another, He is like the prodigal son’s father, who doesn’t go after his son and search for him, but instead He waits (Luke 15:20). He waits for him to grow up. He waits for him to humble himself. He waits for him to come to his senses.
The prodigal son knew what belonged to him and he went boldly to his father and asked for it. The problem was He left what he needed after he got what he wanted. Even after God gives you what you’ve been asking for, you are still going to need Him.
Just because the father didn’t search for his son doesn’t mean he didn’t love him, but it was time for his son to make a decision. What do you want? He had to make up his mind. Either he could stay where he was (apart from his father), toiling, but still hungry or he could go back to his father where there were hired servants and enough bread to spare (Luke 15:15-17).
God has better for you. You don’t have to stay where you are. You don’t have to struggle, but you’re struggling because you want to do things your way. The Holy Spirit will convict you. He will tell you what you need to do, but He is not going to do it for you and He’s not going to make you do it. This has to be your choice.
Elijah asked the question, How long will you halt between two opinions? (1 Kings 18:21). How long will you go back and forth? How long will you sit between who you were and who you are created to be?
There are some adult Christians who want God to treat them like babies. You want him to always pick you up and carry you, but it’s time to learn how to walk – by your own faith. You’re His child, but you’re not a baby anymore. God expects us to grow in our salvation (1 Peter 2:2). Jesus grew in wisdom and stature and He expects us to grow, too. At the age of 12, Jesus was being taught in the temple, but by the age of 30, He was teaching others.
Making choices is part of growing up and sometimes it will feel like making a decision is hard, but when you read the conversation between the serpent and Eve, we learn that God will tell you the type of ‘trees’ that are before you and He will tell you which tree to choose and which tree not to choose, but He is not going to choose for you (Genesis 3:2-3).
God gave you the power to choose, but choose rightly. Maybe you’ve made some poor choices in the past, but the days of being angry, blaming people, living in regret and feeling powerless or helpless are over. Maybe your parents didn’t always make the right choices concerning you, but you’re grown now. You can make your own choices. Choose to obey God and when you choose to do what God wants you to do first, then those things you’ve been worrying about and toiling for will be added to you (Matthew 6:33).
Whether you want God to use you or you want what He has for you or you want to become like a planted tree that brings forth fruit, it is going to require growth, time and change. Do you really want it?
necessary: absolutely needed; so important that you must do it
Someone asked me yesterday about teaching the teenagers. Everything in me screamed, Nooooo! Then I did what I’ve always done in the past. I suggested teaching the adults, but he explained to me that he already had teachers for the adult classes. There was not a need there, but there was a very important area that was lacking and he wanted to put me where I was needed. (It’s interesting how we take our children to church every Sunday yet we sometimes neglect them, but children make up the body of Christ, too).
Well, I must admit I like to pick and choose what I want to do, but it may not be what God wants me to do. Sometimes God doesn’t place you where you want to be, but where you need to be. From time to time, I’ve behaved just like Moses where I didn’t feel qualified or worthy to do what is being asked of me. Who am I that I should go to Pharaoh and that I should bring forth the children of Israel out of Egypt? (Exodus 3:11).
God didn’t spare Moses for nothing. It was for a purpose. He was set apart. He grew up in Pharaoh’s house. He was educated in all of the wisdom and culture of the Egyptians and was mighty in words and in deeds (Acts 7:22). The day that God called him out of a burning bush, Moses was already walking in his calling. He was leading the flock to the backside of the desert, but he didn’t think he was qualified either. God knew why Moses ran away from Egypt. He knew that he murdered someone. He knew he didn’t speak very well, but none of those things changed God’s mind. Moses wanted God to tell him who he was, but instead God told Moses who HE is. I am that I am (Exodus 3:14).
Everything Moses went through (good and bad) – from the time he was born – was preparing him for this very moment. God had given him much and now He was requiring much. He knew Moses was afraid, but He promised to be with him (Exodus 3:12). All He needed was for Moses to trust Him and to obey Him while HE do the work (Philippians 2:13; John 14:10). Leading his father-in-law’s flock was easy, but leading a people was going to be a challenge. However, it taught him how to pray on the behalf of others, it taught him how to love people and it taught him to trust God.
Maybe you don’t have what someone else has or maybe you can’t do what someone else can do, but you are necessary. We need one another. God has set every one of us in the body as it pleased Him. There is no need for the ear to try to be the eye because the function of the ear is just as important as the function of the eye. They look different. They don’t operate the same, but they are still important to the body. Even the parts that seem the least important – the parts we can’t see – are valuable to God.
We shouldn’t go to church just to get a need met, but we should go to church to meet someone else’s need. There are people going through things that we have no idea about. There are people who are fainting. They are thinking about giving up. They are thinking about quitting, but because we are so focused on our problem, we can’t see their problem. In fact, God told me a couple months ago, It’s time to stop feeling sorry for yourself. God wants us to have pity or compassion on others, not wallow in self-pity. He wants us to be like His Son, who had compassion on the multitude who was with Him for three days and had nothing to eat (Matthew 15:32; Mark 8:1-3). He knew some of them had traveled long distances. He wasn’t like some of us who have seen someone’s need, but instead of feeding them, we sent them away hungry. Had Jesus done that, the people would have fainted along the way, but He cares for us.
Sometimes we get weak along the way. We all need comfort, encouragement and support and we are to care for one another. For too long, we have been ministering to the whole while neglecting the sick. They that be whole need not a physician, but they that are sick (Matthew 9:12).
If God is sending you somewhere, it’s because a need is there. If He is asking you to do something, it’s because someone has need of it. Sometimes we forget that God gave us a body for HIM. The body is for the Lord and the Lord for the body (1 Corinthians 6:13). Don’t let your past stop you. Don’t let your weakness stop you because His power and strength is made perfect in your weakness. When you are not doing what God needs you to do, you are like a missing piece of the puzzle, but what you don’t understand is that those other pieces need you. Whether you feel like it or not, you do ‘fit’ in God’s plan.
You are necessary.