I remember one time the Lord told me that an individual wasn’t my husband and I thought, God, come on. We have so much in common. We both love the Lord. We love studying and teaching the word of God. We even talk for hours – about You. This has to be my husband.
But God was right. As nice and wonderful as that man was, he wasn’t my husband.
Another time, God told me that an individual was using me. I thought, No way. Not this person. He hates liars and cheaters. He would never do that to me.
But God was right again. The individual later admitted that he really didn’t want me. He was just using me.
When you read about Eve in the book of Genesis, God gave both her and Adam knowledge and truth. He also warned them. He told them what not to do as well as why they shouldn’t do it.
The reason why God spoke to them first was because he knew that another voice (contrary to His voice) was coming. I know that the bible only records one conversation between the serpent and Eve, but I’m a woman and I know women. Women love to talk. For Eve to trust the serpent, it had to have taken more than just one conversation. (I’m just saying). The serpent was subtle so he knew he had to gain her trust. Building trust takes time, but he waited patiently. He didn’t know her desires (Genesis 3:6), but he talked to the woman until it was revealed and then he tempted her with what she desired.
The enemy has heard some of our conversations and he knows that you desire to be married. He knows that you’re tired of struggling. He knows that you’re tired of living paycheck to paycheck. So, he offers you what sounds like God, but isn’t God. He offers you ‘get-quick rich’ schemes. He offers you things that are pleasant to the eyes, but not to your soul.
Lack of knowledge was not Eve’s problem. Her problem was she didn’t believe what God said. She didn’t believe the truth. She really thought she was getting something better than what God had already given her and Adam. (Before God placed Adam and Eve in the garden, he prepared the garden for them).
Eve did something that a lot of singles desiring to be married do. She trusted the serpent, but she never tested him (1 John 4:1). God doesn’t want any of us to be deceived like Eve. He doesn’t want us to settle just because we’re feeling lonely. And he doesn’t want us to rush into anything just because you’re tired of waiting or because you think that you are running out of time.
God always warns us first because he sees the destruction that lies ahead. Heed the warning. Heed the signs. When you refuse to stop at the stop sign, your failure to obey the sign not only affects you, but it can bring hurt and harm to others.
I didn’t mean for this to be a topic about relationships, but maybe someone needed to read this. Maybe I’m writing this because someone (or myself) had to be reminded of how precious and great you are – with or without a husband or wife.
There are some people who have been called to singleness, but if God has promised you a husband, may that man love you as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it (Ephesians 5:25). And if God has promised you a wife, may she do you good, and not harm, all the days of her life (Proverbs 31:12).
But while you’re single, LIVE. Enjoy being single. Don’t despise it. Don’t complain about it. Learn to be content in the state or status you are in. You don’t have the responsibilities a wife or husband has (yet) so use every opportunity you have to care for the things of the Lord and to please HIM.
touch: to attach oneself to; to leave a mark or impression on; to harm slightly by contact; to taint or blemish
The serpent asked Eve if it was true that God told them not to eat from any tree in the garden. The woman said, We may eat the fruit of the trees of the garden, but of the fruit which is in the midst of the garden, God has said, You shall not eat of it, neither shall you touch it, lest you die (Gen 3:3). The serpent then told Eve that God lied. You shall not surely die. For God knows that in the day you eat it, then your eyes shall be opened and you shall be as gods, knowing good and evil.
The next time you sin, ask yourself, What am I missing that I would do that? – Pastor A. R. Bernard
The enemy wants you to think that you are missing something, but how can you be missing anything when God has given you all things that pertain to life and godliness? Before God placed Adam and Eve in the garden, He placed everything they would ever need in the garden, but because Eve didn’t understand who she was and what she already had, she believed the lies. The serpent said something to her that made her look and it looked good.
We touch things every day. We touch doorknobs. We shake hands. We exchange money. Some of you reading this right now are holding your cell phone. Bacteria, germs and viruses live there. We can’t see them with our physical eyes, but they do exist. Unfortunately, there are things that we touch that can make us sick while there are other things that can kill us through contact or touch (flu virus, AIDS virus).
That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that it should be holy and without blemish (Ephesians 5:27).
The moment you touch what God told you not to touch or handle, that which is spiritual or that which you can’t see (demonic spirits) can attach itself to you and contaminate you. Just like germs and viruses, they have the ability to destroy or kill you.
When Adam and Eve disobeyed God, they were immediately driven out of the garden. They lost what God gave them and you and I can lose what God gave us through disobedience. Why can’t what ‘God has said’ be enough? Why do we touch what God told us not to touch?
Because we really don’t believe what He has said.
When I got involved with the wrong people or involved in the wrong things through deception, it affected my relationship with God. Before long, I wasn’t as close to Him as I should have been. I was hurt, disappointed and heartbroken. I lost my joy. I lost belief in God’s word. I became distant, feeling that I had disappointed God, that I had lost His love and that He no longer looked at me the same.
So, learn from my mistakes. Be careful how you handle people, be careful what topics you touch on in conversation, and be careful of the relationships that you get involved in. Yes, God can restore what you lost, but there are some things that are easy to lose, but hard to get back.
If God says don’t go, then don’t go. If God says don’t text them, then don’t text them. If God says leave it alone, then leave it alone.
Believe what God has said and…