disappointed: sad or discouraged because someone or something failed to fulfill one’s hopes or expectations
Have you ever thought you were getting a job or a promotion only to find out that you didn’t get it?
Have you ever met someone who you thought was ‘the one’ only to find out that he/she wasn’t?
Do you feel like you always get excited about something only to be disappointed – again?
God told Moses what to say to the Israelites, but he was afraid that they would not believe him. They will say, The Lord has not appeared to you (Exodus 4:1). But Moses obeyed. He returned to Egypt like God told him to. Israel accepts Moses as their leader and he was okay with that. Pharaoh rejects him and he was okay with that, too. Who is the Lord, that I should obey his voice to let Israel go? I know not the Lord, neither will I let Israel go (Exodus 5:2).
But after Pharaoh told Moses no, he told the taskmasters and their officers to no longer supply Israel with straw to make bricks. Not only did Israel have to find their own straw, but they still had to make the same number of bricks and they were beaten (Exodus 5:16).
Now Israel rejects Moses. They didn’t want to have anything to do with him anymore. May the Lord look upon you and judge you. For you have caused us to be hated by Pharaoh and his servants. You have put a sword in their hand to kill us (Exodus 5:21, NLV).
This was not okay. It wasn’t supposed to happen like this. He did exactly what God told him to do and now they were angry with him. Moses went back to God. Not only did he tell God about how the people were being treated after his meeting with Pharaoh, but he also told God that He didn’t do what He said he was going to do. For since I came to Pharaoh to speak in Your name, he has done evil to this people and You have not delivered your people at all (Exodus 5:23). Moses was disappointed and he felt like God had lied to him.
Jacob also experienced disappointment. His uncle, Laban, had two daughters named Leah and Rachel. When I was younger, I was told that Leah was the ugly one and Rachel was the beautiful one, but that’s not what the scriptures tell us. In fact, the scriptures only speak of one part of Leah’s body that was flawed or less beautiful than the other parts.
Leah’s eyes were weak, but Rachel was beautiful in form and appearance (Genesis 29:17, AMP).
There was no sparkle in Leah’s eyes, but Rachel had a beautiful figure and a lovely face (NLT).
There was no brightness to Leah’s eyes, but Rachel had a beautiful shape and was lovely to look at (VOICE).
Jacob loved Rachel (Genesis 29:18). He loved her so much that he served her father for seven years just so that he may have her as his wife, but on the day of the wedding feast, Laban gave Jacob his eldest daughter, Leah, and not Rachel. Jacob didn’t know this until the following morning. Can you imagine how he felt? He asked specifically for Rachel, but instead he was given Leah.
What is this you have done to me? Was it not for Rachel that I served you? Why then have you deceived me? (Genesis 29:25).
Now, Jacob was tricked by his uncle and I know that some of you think that Jacob deserved it because he deceived his own father. Despite everything he did, God loved Jacob (Malachi 1:2, Romans 9:13) and He loves you and me, too.
I know Jacob didn’t want Leah and he was disappointed that she was now his wife. Maybe he did feel like he deserved what happened to him because of what he did to his father and brother, but what we fail to realize is our mistakes and our plans don’t change God’s plan. Your mess-ups can’t mess up God’s plan. I know Rachel looked better. It appeared that she had everything that he wanted, but what he wanted was barren, empty and unable to produce children (initially). It wasn’t what was on the outside of Rachel, but what was on the inside of Leah that God needed.
This was God’s plan: For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life (John 3:16). And guess whose lineage Jesus was born through? It wasn’t through Rachel. Abraham begot Isaac, and Isaac begot Jacob, and Jacob begot Judah and his brethren (Matthew 1:2). Judah was Leah’s mother.
For some people, it feels like you’re always getting disappointed, but your disappointment didn’t come from God. It came from the people and things you placed your hope in. Despite what Laban did, Jacob kept serving because he knew what he could have and he wanted Rachel that much. And Jacob served seven years for Rachel (Genesis 29:20). Do you know what God has promised? Do you want what God has promised? If Jacob can serve someone who lied to him, we can continue to serve Someone who cannot lie.
God did exactly what He told Moses he was going to do to Pharaoh, BUT Moses had to continue to do the things that God told him to do. Don’t stop doing what God told you to do. Put your hope and trust in what God said. We don’t always understand HIS plan, but He knows what He is doing. So, before you go to God complaining about what He didn’t do, what is it that you haven’t done yet?
Maybe you prefer ‘Rachel’ (not necessarily a person, but a thing or a situation), but God gave you ‘Leah’ because Leah will put your faith to work. Maybe you’ve been comfortable for too long and God gave you Leah to push you out of your comfort zone. It is out of Leah that the promise will come. God will give you favor because of Leah. And one day, you will realize that if it wasn’t for Leah, you wouldn’t have prayed as much as you did. If it wasn’t for Leah, you would have still been serving yourself rather than serving others. Rachel would have only drawn you away from God, but Leah brought you closer to God.
God is not keeping any good thing from you. I know not receiving the thing you were hoping for made you feel like a failure. I know it hurts. I know it made you cry, but what you thought was a disappointment was really a blessing. No one likes the feeling of rejection. No one likes to be told no, but the promises of God are still yes and Amen.
Believe that God is good, believe that His plan is good, believe that He only gives good things, and this time you will not be disappointed.
Those who hope in ME will not be disappointed (Isaiah 49:23, NIV).
If God said He is going to give you a husband, let God give him to you. Let God pick him out for you. You are a special type of woman who will need a special type of man. You cannot join yourself to just anybody. The men that were sent in the past by the enemy were sent to destroy your soul, kill your ministry and rob you of the good things God gave you. They were sent to give you depression, low self-esteem, and to tear you down.
You are out of the relationship now, but God is still restoring what you lost in that relationship. The devil couldn’t tear down what God built. You survived in what others died in. Some women lost their minds, but you are still in your right mind. This thing was intended to work against you, but instead it worked for you. You don’t even look like what you’ve been through.
As you allow the Lord to make and prepare you for your husband, keep in mind these things:
- Jacob worked 14 years to marry Rachel. You are worth working for. You are worth waiting for. Your body is not for fornication, but for the Lord (1 Cor 6:13). God never gave you a body to be used by men, but to be used by Him for Him. You want someone that will want ALL of you, not SOME of you.
- Obey God. Anytime God asks you to do something for Him, it’s because He wants to do something for you. When Ruth was where she was supposed to be and doing what she was supposed to be doing, THEN Boaz saw her. Prior to that, he could not find her.
- You are a good thing. You should know who you are. Do not leave that type of responsibility to a man because just as quick as he can build you up, he can also tear you down. Whoever finds you will find a good thing and will obtain favor from the Lord (Prov 18:22).
- Stop saying ‘there are no good men out there’. Watch your words. Sweet water and bitter water can’t flow from the same fountain. When you speak, say only what you want to see. Everything God made was good, but every man doesn’t know who he is and he won’t know until he consults the One who made him. Please remember that you didn’t always have it together (and you still don’t have it all together), but God was very patient with you. If God can change you, He can change them, but let Him do the changing. Let God do what needs to be done in you and in him before He gives you away.
- Once you recognize your husband and he recognizes you, pick out your wedding dress, the flowers, the cake, the location, etc., but don’t invest more time preparing for the wedding than you do for the marriage. The wedding only lasts for a short period of time, but you want your marriage to last a lifetime. Even after you’re married, you will always be learning one another. If you don’t want to invest the time (because it is work), then don’t waste his time. You are two people, but you must learn how to become one.