I remember some years ago being angry with my dad and blaming him for some things. I thought that if he had done some things differently, then my life would have turned out differently.
But one day, I became a parent – and you know what? I’ve made mistakes and poor choices that may or may not have affected my children.
I realize now that my dad did the best he could for his family. At that time, I was so focused on the wrong that he did that I forgot about all the things he did right.
As we celebrate Father’s Day this weekend, I just wanted to make a list of some of those ‘right’ things.
1. He married my mom.
2. He was never lazy. He was a hard worker. He worked six days a week.
3. Instead of making other people rich, he learned how to make money for his family. He became a business owner (without a college degree).
4. He didn’t send me to church. He made sure I went to church with him every Sunday.
5. He attended PTO meetings.
6. When I went to college, I had no idea what financial aid was.
7. When I divorced my husband and didn’t have a place to stay, he opened his home to his two grandchildren and me. (He didn’t have to do that. I’m sure he was happy he finally had the house all to himself).
8. In recent years, he always thanks me and tells me how much he appreciates the things I do for him.
But the best thing I remember about my dad is:
9. He moved his mother in with him to help take care of my sister and me after my mom’s passing (I was 13 months old). When his mother was no longer able to take care of us, he made sure she was taken care of until the day she died.
With all the flaws, mistakes and shortcomings, my dad is still a great man. (He will be turning 83 years old next month).
Whether your dad is present or absent in your life, be grateful that God used him to get you here. I pray that the love and forgiveness extended to you from your Heavenly Father teaches you how to love and forgive your earthly father (as well as the father of your children, ladies). May God restore broken relationships to those who are estranged from their fathers and to those whose fathers have passed away, may you experience God’s strength, comfort and healing this weekend.
Happy Father’s Day – today and every day!