Hey Ladies Part 2

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There was a man who was given a great responsibility to help rear and train up God’s only Son and our Savior, Jesus.

His name was Joseph.  He is described as a just man (Matthew 1:19).  He was engaged and he respected his fiancée.  He made the choice to wait until his wedding day, but while they were engaged, he found out that his soon-to-be wife was pregnant – with Someone else’s child.  I’m sure he was hurt and disappointed by the news, but he didn’t embarrass or humiliate Mary. He didn’t publicly disgrace her.  I believe he was afraid what other people would say or think of him (as they weren’t married yet), but he was also concerned about Mary – how she felt and how she would be treated.

Joseph had planned on calling off the engagement quietly, but God had a plan, too.  Joseph was about to walk away from favor and from his ‘good thing’.  He was about to give up before he received his deliverance, but before he could do anything, God sent an angel to Joseph.  Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take to you Mary your wife, for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Spirit.  And she will bring forth a Son, and you shall call His name Jesus, for He will save His people from their sins  (Matthew 1:20).

Joseph obeyed the angel.  He didn’t push Mary away.  He protected her.  He endured the difficult times (with her).   He didn’t leave her when she needed him.  He didn’t allow her to have this baby alone in a stable.  Not only did they go through some things while Mary was pregnant, but they also had to go through some things after Jesus was born.  God gave Joseph and Mary what He promised, but it was a fight to keep, guard and protect the promise.  Joseph couldn’t be lazy.  He couldn’t procrastinate.  He couldn’t do what God told him to do when he wanted to do it.  He had to pick up his family and flee to Egypt during the night  when it was inconvenient, when others were sleeping because Herod wanted to kill the One who would give life to many.   When God told him to move, he moved (Matthew 2:13, 19).

Although the bible doesn’t tell us all that Joseph went through, I know it wasn’t easy.  In fact, I’m sure he cried or wanted to cry sometimes, but he held on because he believed what God said.  He believed that Jesus was born to save all men.

He cared for his wife, but he also cared for Jesus.  Do you remember when Joseph and his family went to Jerusalem to celebrate the Passover?  Jesus was twelve years old at the time.  When they left the celebration, they didn’t realize that Jesus wasn’t with them.  They turned back around to Jerusalem and after three days, they found him in a temple, hearing and asking the doctors questions.  When they couldn’t find Jesus, this not only affected Mary, but it affected Joseph, too.  His mother said to him, Son, why have you done this to us.  Your father and I have sought you sorrowing  (Luke 2:48).  If Joseph could care for a child who was not his biological son, surely God can send a man to a single mother who will care for her children like they are his own.

God gives some the gift of a husband or wife, and others he gives the gift of being able to stay happily unmarried (1 Corinthians 7:7, TLB).

According to the above scripture, to be married is a gift, but to be ‘happily unmarried’ is also a gift.  If God gives you a husband or a wife, He doesn’t want you to treat this gift as we would a toy or a new car.  After a certain number of years, some of us want something new or something better, but God doesn’t want us to treat people the way we treat things.  He wants us to value what He gives us because what He gives us doesn’t lose value.

This makes me think about the prodigal son.  His older brother said he was living with prostitutes (Luke 15:30).  When the prodigal son returned home, he told his father he wasn’t worthy to be called his son (Luke 15:19), but what he didn’t realize was the moment he humbled himself and repented to his father for what he had done, everything was restored back to him.  And guess what?  He was still  his father’s son.  His father hadn’t changed his mind about him.  The reason why the prodigal son was doing the things he did with his body was because he didn’t understand his value, but the good news is he never lost his value.  And he didn’t lose his position either (Luke 15:22).  He just left it.

He that is unmarried cares for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord (1 Corinthians 7:32). 

The above scripture tells us what we should be doing while we’re single.  Are we faithful to God in this area of our lives?  What are we doing with this gift (of being unmarried)?  Or maybe we don’t see it as a gift.  Are we happily unmarried or are we only happy when we have someone?

Joseph was a good man, a good husband and a good father.  He was the type of man that most women would desire to marry.  To those ladies who God has promised a husband, there is a ‘Joseph’ for you, but why would God give us (I’m including myself) a ‘Joseph’ if we’re not willing to become a ‘Mary’?  Have you ever thought that what you’re expecting from your future husband is what God expects from us, His bride?  It was just as important for Mary to be obedient as it was for Joseph to be obedient.  Ladies, there is nothing wrong with having standards, but it’s not right to desire for a man to be to you what you fail to be or become for God.

Mary didn’t allow herself to be used by different men, but she offered her body to be used by God. She may have not understood everything Gabriel told her and we know she was afraid (Luke 1:30), but she obeyed.  She didn’t resist God.  She didn’t fight God.  She submitted to Him.  Be it unto me according to your word  (Luke 1:38).  For some of us, that’s been the problem.  We’ve been saying yes to what we should be saying no to, and saying no to what we should be saying yes to.

I’m not ashamed to tell you that I’ve gotten involved in relationships that I should have never been in, but so have some of you.  I also know that just like the prodigal son’s brother, the enemy will condemn us, remind us of all the things we’ve done wrong and try to make us feel not worthy to be married or remarried again, but God is not looking at what you did then.  He is looking at what you’re doing now.

Well, how much longer do I have to wait?  I’m not getting any younger.  Maybe you’re not waiting on your husband.  Maybe your husband is waiting on you.  James 5:7 speaks of the farmer who is patient.  The reason why he is patient is because he believes  that what he’s waiting for is ‘precious’.

Just in case you’ve forgotten, I just want to remind someone today that no matter what you’ve done in the past and no matter how many men have touched you,

You are still  precious.

You haven’t lost your value.

And you are worth waiting for.

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